Compounded grief.

A client recently found herself dealing with a rebound of grief after going through recent break up from family members.

The loss she felt for her husband four years ago began to rise up  and take over her once more.

Why does this happen,?

Compounded grief is just that  when all of the grief  gets comprised together and then causes a downward spiral  once more .

Grief comes through many different guises,a relationship break down, loss of  connection with others, going through the menopause, parent's having to go into a nursing home   the break up of a relationship. 

It can feel really overwhelming and scarey to find yourself back in the mists of grieving once more  feeling, depressed and unable to cope. 

My client hadn't  processed what was going in her life and she'd felt so low again not understanding that  she was going through had added  layer upon layer of grief.

So how do you get through the maze of compounded grief?

A tried and tested way is to use the three C's

Choose
Connect
Communicate

Do not be afraid of unpacking grief  it may even help to undertand why it feels so traumatic once more. Choose how to work through your grief, if you have previously worked through grief try and recall how you processed it at the time, recalling what worked for you previously 

Connect with yourself  alow yourself time to really understand that grief is not linear, there is not a clear path through it  and because we are human  sometimes grief can show up at different moments in our lives,  honour your feelings, be gentle with yourself. Understand that all types of grief mentioned above can bring up an overwhelming sence of loss. 

Communicate, whether you reach out to friends, family, your gp, #mentalhealthmatters #TheSamaritans  a grief Therapist  you don't have to go through this alone, there are  people around you who will be able to empathise and support you.

Grief can bring on a sence of loss of control  so take small steps, plan your day, what you eat  wash  get dressed  take a walk in nature. Slowly slowly you will find hope again, find what serves you well, and you will find clarity a way of dealing  with all you are going through.

Take comfort in knowing that you have processed grief before, time is your friend and there no right or wrong way  you do have  the ability, the tools within yourself to do this.

I wish you well 🙏

Deborah x